40 Day Love Dare - The Book | Fireproof - The Movie | 40 Day Love Dare Journal
The Love Dare is a day plan of action for improving marriage, whether the marriage is healthy and strong or hanging by a thread. On each of 40 days, this. Well, because we're kicking off another year of marriage and always up for a good intellectual challenge, we're starting the 40 Day Love Dare. I've known about the Love Dare. I've watched Fireproof before. I watched it again Saturday night as I sat in the midst of heartbreak. The way life.
Love believes the best. There are two competing rooms in our minds. The other is the Depreciation Room, where all of the things that bother and irritate us about our significant other are written on the walls. The book is blunt: The Depreciation Room will kill a relationship. Thankfully, we can choose which room we spend our time in. But love chooses not to live there. You must decide to stop running ot this room and lingering there after every frustrating event in your relationship.
It does you no good and drains the joy out of your marriage. The book describes a sort of love called agape, which is a Greek word for unconditional love. It is different from other types of love, including phileo friendship and eros sexual love. The truth is this: The book says that we should not just follow our heart, we should lead it.
Love is Jesus Christ. It really is impossible to love someone unconditionally without having a relationship with the only person who ever truly DID love unconditionally: But, when he did he found that with this ministry he could give his burdens and addictions to God.
He has worked hard at his recovery. He has had relapses but continues to work hard at it. Since learning of his addiction I have grown further from him. I felt and feel like there is something he needs from the porn that I am not giving him.
When we make love, I feel that he is fantasizing about other women. I have tried to overcome the feelings I have and even attended Celebrate Recovery for about a year. However it is an anonymous ministry and in open share time in my study group I could not share my true feelings because you can't discuss issues about other member of the ministry which my husband is a member of.
Therefore I stopped going. I still feel the same way at times but continue to pray about it. I decided to do the love dare on my husband in hopes that it would renew the love that we once shared.
We still love each other but it is just not the same. I want that same wonderful love and joy that we once had. I want the intimacy back without the bad feelings I have. I know it is possible with God beside me and walking each day close to him.
I will update as the love dare experience continues. Back at the end of November is when my marriage took a drastic turn out of nowhere. My wife say she been depressed since I moved her up here to Tennessee in I know I'm far from perfect but I am trying to save my marriage. She wanted to go to marriage counseling back in but I said no because at that time, I had to much pride.
After our 3rd baby was born Juneshe had Postpartum Depression. Not to mention, I deployed in and for 6 months. I know that I was never giving her the attention like I should have been because I had a bad habit of being on the game system all the time. Once everything hit the fan, I immediately got rid of the game to focus on my marriage and her as well.
She said it was just to late, but I told her it's never to late. She said she have been crying on so many nights without me knowing and I told her to please forgive me. Now, I cry because the woman of my life, who I just knew was the one for me, is walking out of my life without giving me a chance.
All she want now is a divorce. Also, I been doing things I shouldn't be doing like snooping around to see if she is actually cheating. I know it's wrong, but I became very curious once she refuses to open up and talk about everything.
Now she says that she will open up after she moves out the house so that way she won't have to see me or anything after that. I really need help because I'm just so confused, weak and depressed.
I was an idiot who never saw the pain I had caused her or the control she lived under for so many years.
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Well about ten days before Christmas while sitting with a marriage counsellor she told me she was separating from me. She then proceeded to have me removed from the home. I deserved it as I hit my wife this past May, an action I will regret till my dying day. It has been 85 days that I have been out of our home.
We have two daughters together and one from her previous marriage. Her parents have since moved in with her after selling their home. Now I am alone and missing the woman who made me smile every day. I have been doing the Love Dare on and off, as it is hard since she has asked for space and time. I am on day 27, and although not done, I hope that she has noticed my actions.
She has started communicating with me a little more, and although that is not saying much, something is better than nothing from her. I have learned how to love her unconditionally, and know that this is just the beginning. I will not give up on her nor the Dare. I found my life mate in her, and I found a belief that our marriage is a covenant, not a contract. I need to prove and show her every day that I am not the boy she married, but the man she needs in her life.
So does the Love Dare work? Yes, if you learn from it and understand that being selfless is part of loving someone. Right now I am a broken man, but I believe that God will provide for me the tools to last this storm. The Love Dare is one of the tools He has provided me. Thank you for your time in reading this, and I ask for your prayers and will pray for all that take the dare. God bless you all and bless my wife and family!
I am 18 years old and he is We have been together for a year and 8 months. We have only been together for a short amount of time, but I knew from the moment that I met him he would be the one for me. We had a plan to be married in just a couple of years, but now it is looking very unlikely for us, unless God sees otherwise.
But here the last few months our relationship has been in turmoil. We had a fight in October that changed our whole relationship. I was selfish and I only cared about myself. I was the cause.
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But ever since that night I havent been able to reclaim happiness in our relationship. My boyfriend has told me he has fallen out of love with me, and he doesnt know if he can ever fall back into love with me again. Amongst all of this, he deals with addictions.
We have been unable to communicate for a long time, and I just feel like I do not please him or make him happy anymore. He doesnt see me as beautiful, and I fear he finds more pleasure in the porn than in me. He is fighting so much with me, and he is also fighting within himself.
He has told me he feels God is not there for him anymore, and he just t wants to give up on everything. I am so scared to lose him, because I do love him with all of my heart. I know that God could fix things for us and for our relationship.
I have been praying and crying out for God's help during this time. I would love to start the 40 Day Love Dare with him. Please be praying for us. We went through a tough year where We were close to divorce. She was being inappropriate with others and I am unsure how far things went.
I've become very angry and have had a hard time letting go of the past.
She still has these other people in her everyday life and she knows it bothers me. If so how can I learn to let the past go? In Jan of my husband filed for divorce. We owned the movie, "Fireproof" but hadn't watched it in a very long time. After a few weeks, I finally watched it and ended up going out immediately and buying the book, "The Love Dare". This book worked a miracle on my heart and my own relationship with God-- and by God's grace, my husband saw these changes in me.
He ended up not following through with the divorce. Unfortunately though life went on and we never followed through with the problems we had in our marriage and the things that had hurt us, so we never truly healed.
We became pregnant-- twice. But, since we hadn't worked through those things, in Oct he told me that he wanted a divorce again, but this time he was going to "follow through with it". I was 7 months pregnant with our second child and our son was only 10 months old. I was heartbroken and scared to death! Very long story short, he had a girlfriend whom he ended up marrying, so it's been a very long, tiring, trying, and enduring, almost five years, but I never completely gave up!
God kept telling me to just be patient and to just love them through it. When I finally started to give up this last year and I truly wanted to throw in the sticks, just a few weeks ago my boys and I flew to our hometown.
On the first day, he explained to me that him and his now wife are getting divorced and this has been "the worst decision he's ever made! I am sharing this because I want to give any of you hope that the Love Dare really does work, and to never ever give up! Trust God and give it all to Him and He will lead you through this.
It's definitely the hardest journey I've ever been through, but after running into this website today, I've decided to do the love dare again except for mostly for myself, as I can't fully do it for him this time around. He will fight for you and your marriage. We have been married for almost 10 years and have an 8 yr old son. We married at a very young age and have since been through so many ups and downs. Just last year we decided to separate for a short period of time and decided to give it another shot.
However, despite how happy we were for a few months, just a couple of months ago our marriage took a turn for the worse. We have been to separated less than a week and I feel like my world just shattered into little tiny pieces.
I have been praying for both my husband and myself everyday and decided to download a prayer app in which a really nice person suggested I try the love dare. I am on day 4 and so far my husband has responded in a positive way however I am a little uneasy of the journey ahead of me as I am not sure if he will continue to respond the way he has been in the past few days.
Even though I have been trying the love dare challenge, it is very difficult for to expect anything from him as things are so tense and complex. Despite it all, the love dare book as opened my eyes and has so far helped me understand some of things that have gone wrong within our relationship.
Please pray for me and my family. We used to have the best time together. We could sit on the floor listening to music for hours and talk about anything and everything.
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Things started going downhill when I got pregnant. The day I found out, I lost my job, 2 months later, he lost his. That was 2 years ago and financially, we have been in a rut ever since. We had literally never had an argument until things turned way downhill and we were forced to move into my parents basement. We fought every day. We were intentionally saying things that would hurt the other and cause a fight.
Usually the first words out of his mouth were something that would get me going. After a year of living in their basement, we finally were able to get our own place again. Financially, we are still hardly surviving. Our relationship has gotten a lot better than what it was but when we are exhausted, the hurt starts flowing.
If I bite my tongue, he instigates until I finally snap and blurt it out. We both will make jabs at the other about having lovers on the side when neither of us do. We've just gotten so used to saying such awful things, that it is proving difficult to stop them from coming out.
We aren't nearly as bad as some people who are doing this dare, but we could be so much better. Tomorrow is Day 1. He has no idea I am going to be doing this.
I am hoping that with changing my own actions and strengthening my relationship with God, he will see the change and want to work on himself. Maybe towards the end I can leave my journal out where he can see it and hopefully he will want to do the dare himself.
We have had our ups and downs like everyone else but never knew how to recover from the downs. She got tired of always having downs and decided to give up and leave me. Saying to me she will always love me but doesn't love me the way a wife should love her husband. The downs were always my fault and I never thought I was hurting our relationship until it was to late and she left.
We have a 2 year old son and it kills me seeing him so confused asking his mom where his daddy is.